The weekend seems a distant memory but I’m still enjoying watching Glastonbury. It was a great weekend with fantastic performances. The standout was probably Elton John, it would be hard to compete with that. But I also enjoyed great sets from The Pretenders Tom Grennan, Generation Sex, Guns and Roses, Rick Astley with Blossoms and others.

The standout stories centred around two artists for whom the Glastonbury experience was traumatic.

The highest profile was that of Lewis Capaldi. Capaldi is a very talented and successful artist who sadly struggles with Tourette’s Syndrome, and had to take time off recently for mental health issues. During his set, Capaldi shared his mental health struggles with the crowd and found himself unable to get his words out as his Tourette’s took hold.

Many people have commented on the way the crowd saw what was happening and took over the singing for him. This was more than a singalong in the sun, it was powerful and inspiring. The love and support Capaldi received from that crowd, and across all forms of media since, reinforces how we can stand up for each other when others need support.

People are often frightened to show any sign of weakness, particularly in such a public arena. Yet the response to Capaldi’s struggles demonstrates just how people want to get behind, support and lift us rather than criticise. Admit where you’re struggling and people will help you find a solution, pretend all is OK and they will just judge you for being below the standard they expect.

It was a slightly different story for the lesser-known female singer Billy Nomates. I hadn’t heard of Billy (real name Tor Maries) before Glastonbury despite liking the band Sleaford mods, with whom she collaborated recently. But I heard the story that she’d asked the BBC to take down clips from her show because of a torrent of online abuse in the comments, apparently because she used backing tapes.

Sometimes there’s no better marketing than trolls attacking you. The furore over her set encouraged me to check it out; I’m glad I did. It was superb. Her voice reminds me of Stevie Nicks. And yes, she used backing tapes, I would like to see her trolls have the guts to stand in front of a Glastonbury crowd with nobody and nothing else on stage, just them and their voice. It was so powerful.

Both Lewis Capaldi and Billy Nomates have said they won’t be touring again for the foreseeable future. I think that’s just a shame. But, as with Lewis Capaldi at Glastonbury, after the news broke about Billy Nomates, Twitter was full of people supporting her and sharing how great her set was, rather than trying to knock her down.

If we see other people struggling, we have three choices. We can stand and watch, we can make the trouble worse, or we can help them out.

Be vulnerable. Let people help you and be there for others. And enjoy the music while you’re at it.